Why aren’t you married ?

I’ve been to 3 weddings in the last six months . All were my closest and dearest friends my sisters . And my niece asked me well all your friends are getting married why aren’t you ? And when she asked me that I didn’t really even realized that that was happening . That all my friends were getting married and I was and am still single . (My niece is 14 so at that age we tend to speak without thinking but the truth of it still stands )

So why aren’t I married ?

To be frank I don’t know but I don’t think I care either . Marriage is something so beautiful and Jehovah is the originator of marriage (Genesis 2:21-24).

I’ve watched my dearest friends marry the loves of their lives and seen the love that exist between them and their mates and the depth of it and it’s stunning . I remembered how I cried because I just knew they were happy,safe and that they would be cared for the way they deserved . For me I don’t think it’s a matter of if it’s something I want or if it’s for me anymore kind of thing . I’m just single and that is enough for me . I’m enough for me and I’m just trying to be the best me I can be . Not for anyone else , but to please my God . Sometimes we want things that we may not be ready for or we want to give all this love that we have to share it with someone and I do have a lot of love to give . It may not be given to a mate but it’s given to my family my friends my love ones . Yes the dynamics are different but for me there isn’t a void anymore .

It used to be one because I felt that the love I have should be given to the man I marry and yes that’s true but love has so many different facets . So many different faces and meanings and I feel content with where my love is going . It’s not being wasted or thrown away or disrespected .

Yes I have my days where I am sad or lonely and that’s okay . But I can say that most of my days are full . Full of love , anxiety , disappointments , laughter and setbacks . But they are full and meaningful and crazy lol

So there isn’t a reason why I’m not married . Not any particular one . And that should be enough .

10 Comments Add yours

  1. lisalease1 says:

    Good for you for realizing that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! It is sometimes hard for me to stomach the fact that I am the ONLY one out of a group of friends who isn’t married… I don’t want even have a man on the horizon lol. If I am completely honest, it sometimes gets me down but then I have to remember that there is nothing wrong with me. Thanks for your post. It was great encouragement for the day!


    1. I’m so happy that this was able to encourage you and girl there is no man for me on the horizon either lmbo but that’s okay . You will have your days but try not to look at your singleness as sad or not good . Because it’s nothing wrong with it. Allow yourself to feel but don’t let it consume you because you’re not alone ever .

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      1. lisalease1 says:

        Thank you!

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  2. I love this and I love you. ❤

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    1. Thanks my love . Love you more


  3. msincerely says:

    I really needed to read this! I am also one of the few in my circle of friends that is single! Thank you so much for the encouragement

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    1. I’m so happy that this was able to help you 💕


  4. msincerely says:

    Reblogged this on Sincerely, M. and commented:
    A need to read 🥰


  5. I neeeeded thissss. Being a single in this day can be so weird, but it can be just as amazing! And a little reminder if that is always needed (for me, anyways! Lol ) 💕

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    1. Yesssssss I totally understand sis


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